It’s a widely known fact that once your wedding day is over, your like . . . whole life is over. Okay, I’m being a
bit lot dramatic here and that’s not true at all, BUT if you’re married than you know what I mean! Our wedding day was the most magical, most perfect day and I only wish that I could’ve stopped damn time so that I could live those moments longer. GAH!
Your life isn’t over it’s just beginning baby. Dangggg that’s poetic. And true. The wedding day isn’t to be fussed over, it’s the day after your wedding and the day after that, for forever. And when I asked all of my friends for ‘wedding day’ advice, 90% of them said that the day will fly by and to remind myself (and Joe) to be present the whole day through. So since I’m
slightly a lot-ly going through some wedding withdrawals, I’ll share with you some advice for your wedding day so you can beat those post wedding blues!
I mean, you spend months planning and prepping every detail, minute moments that will take place before, during, and after your wedding. Then when the day is done you wish that you had stressed less and slowed down more. Coming from someone who had a full blown melt down the DAY before our wedding- only moments after the rehearsal, believe me when I say that it’ll be worth every tear, every argument, every anxiety attack, every melt down, every PENNY! All of it!
One of my closest friends, Nikki, got married the month before mine (I was MOH eeek!) so we were towing the same line when it came to wedding stresses and drama regarding our wedding dresses lol I remember her telling me that we could only do so much and that on the day of, we just had to trust that it would all come together and that if anything went wrong- no one would notice because they wouldn’t even know how it was supposed to be to begin with.
Best advice ever and so true. My table numbers were supposed to be stood up and stuck down! The story goes like this, I totally flubbed the “table number wine cork ombre” DIY bull crap, so I asked the venue to place a sticky dot to the bottom of each to hold them down to the table cloths. Instead they propped them up against the centerpieces which looked great, but as the bride who planned like a mad woman and then specifically wrote detailed instructions on every single thing we dropped off (like a crazy person), you can imagine the immediate (and irrational) cold sweats that was happening under my wedding dress.
But no one knew what they were SUPPOSED to look like so everyone thought everything looked perfect. And it did. So do me a favor and on the day of your wedding release that shit. Release the anxiety and the worry of it all, it will work out and your day will be perfect, promise! Ask Joe! I even tried bringing my entire planner with me to the hotel the night before the wedding so I could go over any last minute details. Last minute details? Girl it was the last minute! He told me in a very firm and very afraid voice (I looked like a rabid mongoose) to, “let it go” and then he took it from my white knuckled death grip lol
So breath. Literally breathe- shallow breaths create an over abundance of carbon dioxide in your blood and then you’ll be nauseous with a headache like I was! Just go out there and enjoy your day dammit! Every where you turn you’ll see a face you love that is there in support of your union and that’s such an incredible and unforgettable memory.
And one final piece of advice, book that honeymoon stat! Or plan at least a mini-moon until the honeymoon as closely to your wedding as possible. It’s not until you and your spouse are alone . . . with no one around, no planning, no busyness, and no chaos, that you both realize that you’re MARRIED! You did it and it settles in, and then you’ll reminisce together, and you’ll relive those moments and it’s pure bliss. Damn, if I could just go back in time.
Do you have any advice for our soon to be Mr. and Mrs. out there? Was there anything in particular that you did in preparation for your big day?