This is the thing, Joe and I were both raised Catholic. Like we went to Sunday school each week, got our first communions, and never missed an ash Wednesday (my mom still calls me every ash Wednesday). But as we got older we questioned a lot of things; our faith, what we believe in, and our views on religion. We decided we’re more spiritual rather than religious and that’s where we’re coming from in all of this. We always knew that if we got married it would be Fr Leo who officiated.
Leo is a good friend ours, Joe met him while he was studying to be a priest at Joe’s Catholic middle school in Maryland. He’s the man who got Joe into martial arts and break dancing. Like, how cool do you have to be, all into break dancing and martial arts?! Not to mention he’s a chef (I mean he beat Bobby Flay lol!) and an awesome person to talk to about life and theology. But in order for us to be married by him we’d have to be married in a sacred place, and to be married in a sacred place we’re taking marriage prep classes.
Couple of things, no we aren’t the best practicing Catholics, but also no it doesn’t bother us to take marriage prep together. Marriage prep with Leo is Joe and I cooking together, talking together, and calling into session with Leo every few weeks to discuss. It’s been such an eye opening experience to cook meals together and talk about things we’ve never discussed in the six years we’ve been in a relationship. In this first chapter we talked about religion, our idea of love at first sight, and what initially drew us to the other. Crazy how we’ve never brought these things up before, and it’s things like this that make me so happy that we’re doing it.
Whether you pray together, meditate together, or take yoga together, you’re still doing something together. Something that connects and binds you, something that makes you stronger as a team. I feel like partaking in those kinds of things is also an idea that is deeper than what society tells you is cool or acceptable. Are we ashamed of being married in a chapel and participating in marriage prep? Hell no, it just means we’re gonna be SUPER prepared for when the honey moon is over and the ‘lifetime of love’ part kicks in.
Our wedding (in the cutest chapel you ever did see) will be in a Catholic chapel performed by Fr Leo in an exchange of vows and we’ve decided we aren’t going to do the mass part. There will be an organ playing however, a beautiful dress, and of course lots and lots of tears.
What are your thoughts on marriage prep and would you/ have you participated in it?
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